Yesterday I was speaking with a bride about her wedding dress. She was showing me the photos and told me that it had taken her a long time to find the right one. I hear that a lot from brides.
Like Gandolf and that ring, a bride knows that this dress must rule the world. Getting it right and feeling like a million bucks is all part of a day that most say, is one of the best of their lives.
When I think about this, I think of avant-garde artist of the eighties, John Foxx. Originally a member of the sublime band, Ultravox, Foxx departed to pursue a solo career and released an album in 1983 called "The Golden Section'. A masterpiece of the New Romantic movement that still stands tall 36 years after its release. It featured the song, "Your Dress'. A song that captures the passion, whimsy and feeling you get when you wear a dress that rules the goddamn world!
I've literally seen thousands of wedding dresses over the seventeen years I've been coordinating weddings. Some I've loved and some well, not so much but then, I'm not the one wearing them so to each their own.
Back in the early two thousands, the strapless dress ruled the wedding world and the same styles featured again and again with perhaps only slight variations of beading or trim. After 10 years, it all got to be more than a little boring. Yet occasionally, a renegade bride would break out and find that needle in the haystack, the not-strapless dress. In those days, it took a hell of a lot of digging and thinking outside the box.
Brides of today, let me tell you, you have it eeeeeaaasssyyy. With so many start-up gown designers and the popularity of all things retro and vintage, dresses of all shapes and sizes are back in vogue. Even (gasp) sleeved dresses! Hallelujah!
The issue now is, that with so much choice, brides are a little confused about how to find that one dress. The absolute, most important, best piece of advice I can offer you is to schedule a day to dress shop with your best friend, mum or the person you trust most. Tempting as it is to surround yourself with yes-sayers or your entire bridal party, you only want one or two advisers with you who will keep things streamlined and provide frank and fearless advice. Be brave. Be bold and be business minded.
Choose two or three shops to visit in a day and when you get there, try on every style of dress in the shop. No, not every dress.. you wouldn't survive the day. Just the different styles.. the merengue, the frills, the sleek, the long, the short, the mermaid, the lace...
Bride: "You know, it's not a dress I would have ever thought I would wear and I didn't like it on the hanger but when I put it on, it just felt right."
I've heard the above statement so many times from brides that I've lost count. Something you hate on the hanger may look amazing on you. Rule nothing out. Don't worry to much about the fabric at this stage. It's the shape of the dress you want to nail. A dress can always be made for you in a different fabric.
Narrow down the styles if you have to but chances are, you'll know immediately if you love or hate it. You may even be lucky enough to find the perfect style and fabric in the one dress but if it doesn't work for you in the first day, don't be discouraged; that dress is out there somewhere so call it to you. Leave it for a week or two and let the sequins settle before you select another few stores and gather your trusted crew together. Persistence will pay off when you slip one of those dresses and whisper those magic words "This is it!"
Now go forth and rule the world!